Have you ever had a moment where your reaction surprised even you?
I did. It was a normal day—until it wasn’t. My son wasn’t listening. I felt ignored, disrespected, invisible. I snapped. My voice raised. His heart broke. And suddenly, I wasn’t just reacting to him—I was reacting to every unresolved crack in my frame that had been building for years.
In that moment, I wasn’t parenting. I was protecting. Not him—me. Protecting myself from feeling unseen, unheard, and out of control. But God met me there. Not with shame. Not with condemnation. With clarity.
That moment became a mirror. And it led me to ask: What if the way I’ve been seeing things—my reactions, my need to control, my emotional habits—wasn’t the only way?
This is the heartbeat of Chapter 4 in The Reframing Principle: the turning point where the old patterns lose their grip, and the restoration process begins.
Up until this point in the book, we’ve done the hard work of identifying emotional triggers, surfacing the lies we believe, and reframing negative circumstances. But Chapter 4 invites us to take the next step: to surrender control.
It’s not about fixing ourselves. It’s about trusting the One who can.
“Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.” Psalm 51:10
Restoration is not about becoming a better version of your old self. It’s about becoming new. And that doesn’t happen through hustle or perfection—it happens through surrender.
It happens when we recognize that our identity isn’t built on what we can control but on who Christ is in us.
In the chapter, I share how I used to believe that control was the only way to feel safe. I thought if I could manage every detail—my family, my emotions, my future—I could avoid the pain I had experienced in the past.
But it wasn’t working. It was exhausting. And it was wounding the very people I loved. The truth? I wasn’t just fighting for control. I was fighting against the grace of God.
What If Restoration Isn’t a Fix—But a New Foundation?
Galatians 2:20 reframes everything:
“I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me…”
You don’t have to strive anymore. You don’t have to carry the weight. You can surrender—not to defeat, but to restoration. When I let go, I didn’t fall apart—I finally started to heal.
Could This Be Your Chapter Four Moment?
If you’ve been carrying control like it’s your only option… if your reactions are louder than your peace… if you’re tired of managing and pretending—you’re not alone.
God is inviting you to lay it down. To let Him restore what life, pain, and pressure have cracked. This is the moment restoration begins. Not when everything is fixed—but when you’re finally willing to stop fixing and start surrendering.
You’re not your past. You’re not your pattern. You’re being restored. And if that resonates with you, I want to invite you deeper into the journey.
In “Restoring Your Frame,” we walk through practical steps of surrender, reflection, and healing. With Scripture, guided questions, and raw personal stories, you’ll discover how to release control and live in the strength of Christ. This isn’t just about emotional health—it’s about spiritual transformation.
You can pick up your copy of The Reframing Principle today on Amazon or at chadspriggs.com/resources.
Let’s stop surviving—and start restoring. Together.
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